The Power of Love

Before you start reading this, I need you to understand that this does not apply to all the men out there, only the certain, ungrateful ones. This is for the ones who goes around and break people’s heart. I’m also not saying that only guys do that, because there are certain women who do it too. All I don’t get is that, why would they do something that is so selfish? Why is it okay for them to go around and give people false hope? By doing that, does it make them feel better about themselves? Please tell me why though, because seriously, I don’t get how a person can actually do something like that. I wouldn’t say this before, but now, I could say it because I know how it feels like, the pain people go through with love is the most painful one yet. I’ve been through so much pain in life and it does not only cause by love but other things too. Somehow, I can say that the pain of love is just unbearable. I wish though that no one would go through that or any form of pain in that matter of fact, but then again, nothing is in our hands. When we fall in love, we tend not to see everything that’s going on around us. Only the person we are in love with would be in focus for us. Love changes you for better and for worse and when it happens, it just happens. We can’t really prevent ourselves from falling in love, can we? None of us have the power over love. People were right; when they say that, love make us blind. We would only realize this after we get our heart broken, and when we’re out of the spell. But is that true? Can a four letter word cause all of this? Is it love’s fault or the people’s? Think about it for a second. It never was love’s fault in the first place, isn’t it? People are the ones who have the power for us to change us that way. It has always been them. Most of us would say that, we will never let anyone define who we are, never let them change us, and even if we did change, we change it for ourselves not for other people but why when it comes to love all of that differs? What makes us want to be a whole different human being? Why being yourself isn’t good enough when it should have been in the first place? It’s simple. When we fall in love, we fall hard. We have the desire to be a better and the most deserving person for them. We tried so hard to make them happy, make them like us, we eventually forget ourselves and that’s unfortunate. And that is not even the worst part. The worst part is when we get our hearts broken and the pain we felt afterwards; we just are not the same anymore. If you have been in love then you would know what I am talking about. If you have not, then you have yet to discover it. Let me tell you something, love is indeed very beautiful and the feeling is indescribable. You would feel beautiful inside and outside too. It’s definitely the best feeling ever and I think everyone should have loved at least once in their lifetime. Everyone deserves it, but not all of us are lucky enough to find love that easily. Most of us would take a longer time till we actually find it. As said in the movie Paper Towns, by John Green, “The search for love will take you further than you ever imagined”. But like I said before, the problem isn’t caused by love but certain individuals. The individuals who cheats you, plays with your feelings, gives you false hope, and lastly, break your perfectly fine hearts. I have mentioned it in my previous blog post about it. I just could not understand why someone would do that though. I am still searching for an answer. My why’s are still unanswered. I just want to understand what makes someone to do such things and why would they do it in the first place anyway. I just need to understand it so that I’ll have a clear picture on it. I do not think it is a proud thing to go around and break someone’s heart and I would never in a million years would have the heart to do such cruel things to other people. Especially to the ones I truly care about so how can some human beings commit such crimes? Yes, I’m aware that crime is such a big word and it is a little exaggerating but is it though? Isn’t giving someone false hope is a crime too? Because last I checked, it is not okay to do that to someone. You destroyed their whole perceptions on love and relationships, on what they should have actually been or believed and you somehow move on with your life without them and acts like nothing ever happens and you are completely happy. While the person you have hurt couldn’t even move on or worse, will take a very long time for him or her to actually believe anyone ever again or to find the happiness they once had. People hardly think about the consequences of their actions and what it would do to the others around them. We are so used to thinking about ourselves; we tend not to see the ones who are hurting. What happens to the nice guys? Do they exist anymore? Where are the gentlemen that our grandmothers managed to find as their husbands? What happened to them? Since the world is changing constantly, did they too? All girls like me, want is that, the one person that we wanted all along. We just want someone to love us like how we never once did love our own self. We want someone to accept us for the person we are and to never leave us even when life gets hard. We want the true love that we watched in the movies, even if we know not all that happens in the movies would actually happen in real lives but we somehow believe it though despite all of this. We have hope that someday, just maybe someday, it would be crazy enough to happen. However, this all would only happen if that nice guy we are waiting for coming along and prove to us that they are the one. They would fight for us to stay instead of just letting us go. When would that happen? Now, tomorrow, next month, 5 years from now or when we are old? No one has an exact answer when it would happen, not even me. It will happen eventually. We just have to wait for it and in the meantime, just enjoy with our lives as much as we can. We still have time, don’t we? When the right person comes at the right time, it will all be worth it. For now, all we can do is hope that we will eventually find our happy ending someday. Till then we should just live in the moment and go along with what life is going to offer us no matter how hard it gets or how much we’ve been beaten down, just remember to never lose hope cause only by hoping everything will get better in time.